(Pregnancy #1 with baby Ena)
Oh my gosh - Two baby girls, two September due dates (2 days apart!), yet two completely different pregnancies.
I still can't believe I'm 7 months pregnant with baby girl, and its bringing back so many memories from the first time around. Many would assume that two pregnancies would be similar, but this has not been the case for me. As the old saying goes, "no two pregnancies are the same", and I thought that I would outline some of the largest differences for me so far.
The 5 Biggest Differences Between My Two Pregnancies
1. The Endless Fatigue This Time Around
Sure - I was tired the first time around. So tired that I would come home from work, eat dinner and pass out at 6:00PM for the first 4 or so months. I'd even nap at work (my husband ever-so-lovingly used to call me George - for all you Seinfeld fans). Looking back at this time, I just realize how absolutely GLORIOUS it was because I COULD SLEEP WHENEVER I WANTED TO. This time around, I have a very energetic toddler (whose sleeping patterns are iffy to say the least) to run after, on top of having a full time job, a home and husband to take care of, meals to prepare, a social life to maintain and attempt to work out. Now I'm starting to understand what "tired" really means!
(Pregnancy #2 with baby girl)
2. A Greater Emphasis on Health With #2
Sure the first time around I attempted to be as healthy as possible, but I'll be the first to admit that I could have done better. I think I was scared to see how far I could push myself the first time around and used my pregnancy as an excuse to not push myself too hard. I did go to the gym, attempted to eat "healthy" during the first go - but this time around, I've done so much better. The first 6.5 months of my pregnancy, I regularly attended Spin and Yoga classes at my favorite local studio. (The Spin & Yin combo is my absolute favorite). I finally found an exercise routine that I was excited to attend, that motivated me and that made me feel at home. After a while though, the belly gets bigger and my center of balance was thrown off, I felt like I had to stop. More recently, I've started attending a wonderful prenatal yoga class that helps me keep the mind and body healthy. This, combined with healthier eating have made my pregnancy much more enjoyable and healthier.
3. Time Is Moving By Much Slower This Time
Guys, everyone said that the second time around, it flies by. NOPE - not for me. I feel like this time around, the pregnancy is dragging. I think it's because the days are so long. We wake up at 5:30 at my home, and are in bed between 9-10. Every hour is accounted for, between daycare drop offs and pick-ups, work, play time, dinner time, bath time, and next day preparations. On the bright side, however, I haven't had the time to over-analyze this pregnancy, which leads me to....
4. I Feel Much More Confident This Time Around...
In terms of my ability to mother. My track record is pretty good so far, I mean look at this little human I've managed to keep alive for almost 2 years so far! #accomplishment
I was terrified the first time around over-thinking about every possible scenario. But life only gives you what you can handle right? I figure, I somehow was able to manage to mother one child, I should be able to manage two. I mean I had no idea what I was doing the first time around - but somehow it all worked out. Now I'm not saying that it will be easy, I'm sure it will be anything but - but I'm much more confident in my abilities this time around.
5. But I Do Have New Worries
My largest worry is whether or not I will be able to love two. Now before you laugh and call me ridiculous, please note that my husband and I are both only children. This whole parenting two babies is brand new to not only us, but to our parents as well. I worry that I'll be able to give both babies attention, that I'll be able to express to both how deeply I love and care for them, that they'll both know how they're the most important things in our lives. For this, I choose to believe my friends who are parents to multiple children when they say that your heart truly does expand in size. Now I'm sure I'll do a follow-up post to this in the future explaining how ridiculous I was being, but for the time being, give me the benefit of the doubt - I am new to this after all ;).
(Found this wonderful saying here)
To the mamas of multiples, what were your biggest worries? Let me know!